tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-350660192024-03-05T18:16:20.247-08:00Brew808's Interstellar Insanity"The happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts".Brew808http://www.blogger.com/profile/14181681673261981400noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35066019.post-26299096796913298272009-07-09T10:19:00.000-07:002009-07-09T12:40:44.120-07:00I Still Love Her.....<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhGhtW4e1dUS6aTV2AilnGcthKtPbJaXWIuLWjBPZuWWUU1GVeIWLNXYu-ijepmy3qpvC0ZIa9g73Fa-7lIgXnNY0XXY3Ysnb01DLPMrAIJG4x_CvYVPVn-pUObpMroKY_bg-2BUA/s1600-h/3436949538_c6e412531b.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5356547360196812162" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 400px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 300px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhGhtW4e1dUS6aTV2AilnGcthKtPbJaXWIuLWjBPZuWWUU1GVeIWLNXYu-ijepmy3qpvC0ZIa9g73Fa-7lIgXnNY0XXY3Ysnb01DLPMrAIJG4x_CvYVPVn-pUObpMroKY_bg-2BUA/s400/3436949538_c6e412531b.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div align="justify"><span style="color:#009900;"></span><span style="color:#ffffff;">It is very important for me to express to you how much you really mean to me. I wish I could do this in person while holding you in my arms and gazing into your eyes. But since we are physically separated by miles of emptiness, this expression must come in the form of letters such as this. When we met for the first time a few years ago, a lot has happened since then, we've both changed. I don't know when this happened. Everything you say everything I wanted to hear. Everywhere you go, I want to be. Anything that's on your mind, I want to know. No matter what you do, there's something about you that makes me want to be with you. I tell myself that I just want to go back to the way things used to be, when we were closer but I can't help feeling that there's something more. I'm in love with you or am I just in love with the idea of you? I don't know anymore. All I know is I've never experienced something like this with anyone else and it's killing me inside. I need you in my life Mhel. I know you understand everything that's going on in my life right now. I just know you would be able to help me figure out what the hell is happening. I wish you would let me in again. Love and understanding is all I want and need. I could be the most understanding person. I'm just waiting until the moment you realize how amazing our Love could be. You are still in my heart and my love for you will never die Mhel. And the pain I feel inside will always remind me of someone I still love, you. I don't need one hundred words to tell you that I love you, but I need more than the three words it really takes. I'm really sorry, Mhel, I don't know what I was thinking. Actually, I'm sure I wasn't thinking. That story about love meaning never having to say I'm sorry.... whoever came up with it didn't have the first clue about love. Love makes it unthinkable not to apologize if I'm the cause of your pain. I never have the intention to hurt you, but that's also bullshit because as much as I love you I'm imperfect, humanly so. How can I ever be sorry to have to tell you I'm sorry? How can love mean never to apologize when I hurt you? It takes a left turn while my life with you takes a right. You've got the key to my heart and I can't think of ever changing that lock. If you threw away the key, I would survive, but, it would take all the strength I have not to fall apart.<br /></span></div><br /><br /><div align="justify"><span style="color:#ffffff;">I know it is difficult for you, as it is for me, to be separated for so long. Life seems to be full of trials of this type which test our inner strength, and more importantly, our devotion and love for one another. After all, it is said that "True Love" is boundless and immeasurable and overcomes all forms of adversity. In truth, if it is genuine, it will grow stronger with each assault upon its existence. Until that moment arrives, I send to you across the miles, my tender love, my warm embrace, and my most passionate kiss.</span></div>Brew808http://www.blogger.com/profile/14181681673261981400noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35066019.post-31454630726026637662007-12-17T19:15:00.000-08:002007-12-17T20:02:24.198-08:00When Love Takes a Turn......<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiF3Vaup7xb8YJf8xIe_HRUfwl0Oe7gnHhIReuJa0WFMNq19R6blWQ0Ds6Ukvr8eeQjdZaIBVt3pgcApGhGSAJS2vDfaLwUb4hzxVmP2tFeltH7SUdct86rBEEEdeScehcs6V-drQ/s1600-h/broken+heart.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5145155309807967138" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiF3Vaup7xb8YJf8xIe_HRUfwl0Oe7gnHhIReuJa0WFMNq19R6blWQ0Ds6Ukvr8eeQjdZaIBVt3pgcApGhGSAJS2vDfaLwUb4hzxVmP2tFeltH7SUdct86rBEEEdeScehcs6V-drQ/s320/broken+heart.jpg" border="0" /></a> <span style="color:#ffcc33;">When a relationship ends, people assume that it is easy on the person who ends things. It is as if the person who does the breaking up, or who is thinking of breaking things off, is a person with no feelings, but nothing could be further from the truth. Sometimes people break off a relationship without remorse but this is not the norm. Most of the time falling out of love is a painful and confusing process filled with doubt and guilt. In fact falling out of love can be a more emmotional process than falling in love. Falling out of love can be as elusive as finding love. We fall in love for just long enough to sustain a sexual relationship and bring a child to safety. This could be the reason why a lot of relationships that seem perfectly healthy fail at this crucial period.<br /></span><div align="justify"><span style="color:#ffcc33;">When people fall in love, they do so for a number of reasons. For some people it is because they are lonely, and they have been longing to meet someone that they can talk to and spend time with at an intimate level. Though they might have friends, they feel their life is incomplete until they meet that someone. And once they meet that someone, they discover that they really didn’t need that person. They realize that they can stand up on their own. What they were looking for, they already had. They just never realized that. Thus they fell in love for the wrong reason and once that reason is fulfilled, they fall out of love.</span></div><div align="justify"><span style="color:#ffcc33;">It’s very easy nowadays to fall in lust and mistake that for being in love. And once that lusting desire is over, you fall out of love. Most people, who fall in love due to chemistry and not commitment, are the ones that end up being in love with so many different people time after time. As soon as the chemistry goes, they fallout of love and move on to the next person they have chemistry with. Chemistry is just the anticipation of sex. It won’t last forever. When you meet someone new, there is always the adrenaline rush, especially if you have things in common. Your body identifies with that person and once you are relaxed and comfortable with the person. Your desire to have sex with that person arises and that would end up to be a one night stand or several nights stands depending on how satisfied you are.The other reason why people fall out of love is due to their expectations not having been met. When they fell in love, they had high expectations depending on what they wanted. But after some time in the relationship they discover that their expectations are not being met. Maybe they wanted someone who would compliment them and appreciate them, but this is not the case. Instead they have someone calling them names and disrespecting them. After they have had enough, they fall out of love with that person and move on to a different relationship with someone that meets their needs.</span></div><div align="justify"><span style="color:#ffcc33;">The other reason why people fall out of love is mistreatment by their partner. When they first meet someone he/she is so good, so sweet and kind. But after some time they change and become abusive. They either hit them or swear at them. The person then can’t take this anymore and falls out of love and moves on with their life and find someone who treats them better. Nobody wants to be mistreated though some people will tolerate it for a while. But just because they tolerate it, doesn’t mean they enjoy it.</span></div><div align="justify"><span style="color:#ffcc33;">And last but not least the reason why people fall out of love is because they weren’t in love in the first place. There was no commitment; there was just the idea. The idea of being in love seems awesome but it takes work to stay in love. You have to keep doing good. You have to keep appreciating your partner. You have to keep supporting your partner even when the times are tough you have to hang in there and stick together and solve problems together and enjoy victories together.</span></div><div align="justify"><span style="color:#ffcc33;">A loss of chemistry is normally due to other commitments that take away the time for sex or a change in appearance of your partner. All these can be worked out by spending more romantic time together. The thing you liked about your partner at the beginning of the relationship should continue throughout the relationship. Relationships are about spending time together. Most relationships end because of lack of this. People have different upbringings and thus different goals and expectations. This is why when they first meet someone new, they want to get to know them and see if they are on the same wavelength. The more things in common you have with someone the better the relationship. Communication is the key to any relationship. Couples that talk stay in love and couples who don’t talk stay out of love’. Thus when you meet someone new you have to know them first. Before there is contact of the genitals, there should be contact of the minds. </span></div><div align="justify"><span style="color:#ffcc33;"></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="color:#ffcc33;">Successful relationships are based on trust, honesty, love, tolerance, sharing and forgiveness.<br />Most relationship breakdown is normally due to lack of one or more of these things.</span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="color:#ffcc33;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="color:#ffcc33;"></span></div>Brew808http://www.blogger.com/profile/14181681673261981400noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35066019.post-61112966144632659662007-11-14T17:08:00.000-08:002007-11-14T17:46:16.273-08:00Is Divorce "For The Children's Sake" A Good Idea?<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEguBtl7PzSdx0bnDuC_KTh4VeyBtadJuXXT2FPWxlK8zT7xxlfYIZgzwXHENLRVhSGKJ-lwnAc3GNmr_BvAb5qklEmazXpQOSFvGJN_unRfC756dq8kQw-IsG9FjB-XIf0lhWPSzQ/s1600-h/DMM120706D.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5132873677878922338" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEguBtl7PzSdx0bnDuC_KTh4VeyBtadJuXXT2FPWxlK8zT7xxlfYIZgzwXHENLRVhSGKJ-lwnAc3GNmr_BvAb5qklEmazXpQOSFvGJN_unRfC756dq8kQw-IsG9FjB-XIf0lhWPSzQ/s320/DMM120706D.jpg" border="0" /></a> <span style="color:#ffcc66;">Divorce is so so common these days. It's like a game. The first reason is what entertainment companies are putting out these days tells men these days it's OK to degrade women. This can be seen from Tony Soprano strangling his mistress after she threatens to tell his wife about their affair to just about any rap video these days. The message is simple: "just go ahead and live for today and instant gratification.</span> <div align="justify"><span style="color:#ffcc66;"></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="color:#ffcc66;">"Parents will always be parents, divorced or not. You might dislike, despise or even hate your spouse but your children don’t. Divorce and the subsequent absence of a parent is an </span><span style="color:#ffcc66;"><strong>"enormous loss for them perhaps the very worst effect of divorce"</strong>. If you’re undecided about divorce, worrying about the possible effects of divorce on your children, the question arises, "will we still argue"? Would you describe the relationship between you and your spouse as a low-conflict marriage or a high-conflict marriage? If <strong>high conflict</strong> suits you best if your children are constantly exposed to extremely negative and/or abusive words, emotions and behaviours chances are, they are traumatized by it. <strong>Divorce really will have a positive effect on your children’s lives</strong>. It certainly couldn’t be any worse. If your marriage is in the <strong>low level</strong>, conflict by squabbles, impatience with each other’s habits, lack of communication and so on, your children may be unhappy but not troubled to any serious degree. Which would your children choose? Life as it is, or a life that’s changed forever a life without one of you at home? The bottom line is, if you are in a low conflict marriage and your paramount concern is your children, divorce will most likely do them more harm than good. Some options are, to try to save your marriage or to do what your children do, accept things as they are. The good news is that low conflict marriages stand the best chance of being saved. </span><span style="color:#ffcc66;">With so much hate floating around, take the time to love those who are close to you. It will help you get through what otherwise may be long days and lonely nights.</span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="color:#ffcc66;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="color:#ffcc66;">Remember, Life is too hard to do alone...</span></div>Brew808http://www.blogger.com/profile/14181681673261981400noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35066019.post-13350943312825986952007-11-13T19:48:00.001-08:002007-11-14T19:46:26.898-08:00A Happy Relationship, What Does it Take....<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEivOFYx4bHt35tKEpfcN9y1cc6p69l4jaPJ4RWagQl6hFs9b3AuJaYELAsuCZ6KKuxV-i7ntt0PbLTtEPk-WjeS4YBkb2fQ8WG5Zfcnwxpnw7dHT9cb4x_ykQamFLzzhYMDBpB2ww/s1600-h/Man%2520&%2520Woman.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5132544179455682978" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEivOFYx4bHt35tKEpfcN9y1cc6p69l4jaPJ4RWagQl6hFs9b3AuJaYELAsuCZ6KKuxV-i7ntt0PbLTtEPk-WjeS4YBkb2fQ8WG5Zfcnwxpnw7dHT9cb4x_ykQamFLzzhYMDBpB2ww/s320/Man%2520&%2520Woman.jpg" border="0" /></a> Most think that relationships exist to make ourselves happy. When we find that special person, we believe that love will naturally grow. In relationships we encounter everything, challenges, joy, fulfillment, loss. what's funny is, despite all the experiences in life, we seldom learn about the knitty gritty of relationships, how to build the relationship in a way that brings out the best in all. Know who you are and what you really want. Many enter relationships hoping that it will give us a life, or make us feel better about themselves. It is of the utmost importance to know and respect who you are, to enjoy your own company and be aware of your own values and goals. Otherwise, you can lose in a relationship, and become a pawn in someone else’s world. A healthy relationship is an expression of two people, both equally valuable. In this kind of relationship you discover all you have to offer and how to offer it. Feeling happy, high, excited or attached to a person, feeling possessive or dependent is not love. It's infatuation, ego thrills or dependency, usually based upon fantasy. Inevitably, fantasies fade. People then feel that the love is over. It is not over, it’s just been a form of counterfeit love. We must learn the difference between real and counterfeit love, between love and fantasy. Counterfeit love always involves struggle and pain. Real love never does. Real love is a verb. It is not based simply upon feelings, which come and go, but actions. It is important to learn "to"do love". Do love and you will be loved in return.<br />Every relationship is unique, and you may have your own way of knowing that a relationship is right for you. Even when a relationship is going well it is important that you still put effort into it and don't take the relationship for granted. Be aware of what you need in a relationship as well as what other people need. Trying to accept differences, especially between the people we like and ourselves, can help make the relationship healthier and stronger.<br /><br />It may be good to remember that we are all different and the world could be really boring if we were all the same!Brew808http://www.blogger.com/profile/14181681673261981400noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35066019.post-16586775745383900672007-07-23T19:49:00.000-07:002007-07-23T19:54:57.352-07:00The Trials of Life...Good or Bad....<div align="justify"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiHfJrkFFHyQryTH5p4ZemM8oWfe0CK2UxlYWhROAque92nJ-HKhTvgWYo-fq7tsIJYvoENlwi1ZPfjQuh87G1AKNUHDKMd4oCWm_rFNB9SFIydrJT6cFY-G5owloP0W37NrW2JeA/s1600-h/PCU1560.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5090590378880880322" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiHfJrkFFHyQryTH5p4ZemM8oWfe0CK2UxlYWhROAque92nJ-HKhTvgWYo-fq7tsIJYvoENlwi1ZPfjQuh87G1AKNUHDKMd4oCWm_rFNB9SFIydrJT6cFY-G5owloP0W37NrW2JeA/s200/PCU1560.jpg" border="0" /></a> <span style="color:#ff9900;">When difficult times come into our lives and we find ourselves unable to comprehend and understand, the enemy(Devil) is quick to throw doubts and questions into our minds. That's what he waits for, that hole to get into. Every time one of God's children falls or gives in to temptation, Satan proves himself to be right. Remember, the Devil is a Liar, a Deceiver and a Destroyer. How we react to trials not only affects our earthly situation, it also affects things in Heaven. Whether God is Gorified, or Satan, all depends on our actions. When God directly sends a trial our way, it is always because of His love for us. When Satan sends a trial our way, it is always because of his hate for us.<br />All trials and tribulations have a divine purpose. We are never alone. But the question arises, "Why do bad things happen to good people? That is one of the difficult questions in all. The way I will answer this, is, Human beings are sinful. As it is written," There is no one righteous, not even one; there is no one who understands, no one who seeks God". God puts us in situations that are hard for us, and we hurt. But these situations make our spirit and our mind and our attitude stronger. As we become stronger, we are better able to serve God. There is wonderful joy ahead, even though it is necessary for you to endure many trials for a while. The end is always for the good. These trials are only to test your FAITH, to show that it is strong and pure. Remember your FAITH is far more precious to God than mere gold. If your faith remains strong after being tried by fiery trials, it will bring you much praise and glory and honor on the day when Jesus Christ is revealed to the whole world. We all like to have wonderful, trouble-free spiritual moments, which are sometimes called "mountaintop experiences". God does not keep us on these spiritual "mountaintops" for very long. God takes us back down to the bottom of the mountain to the cold, hard valley of reality. That is where He has work for us to do.<br />When we are in our trials, God comforts us. When we come through a trial, then we can look back and know how important it is to be comforted. Then as we praise God for comforting us, we learn that He comforted us so that we will comfort others. Many times we are permitted to go through trials for the same reason as read in the Book of Job, which Job had to face so God can be glorified. If we are not patient, holding onto our faith in God while we are facing trials, God will not receive any Glory. All the glory, in such a case, will go to Satan. However, when we go through the fire in the same way that Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego did (Daniel 3:19-30), God will be glorified.<br />When we walk by faith, we must continually remind ourselves from where we have come, and with thanksgiving never forget the trials God has brought us through. Thank the Lord even if things are not going well. By doing this, we will not fail to remember how faithful God is to help us in our most urgent times of need. Because God never changes, He is the same yesterday, today and forever and we know that, what He did for us in the past He will do for us in the future. Having this knowledge will enable us to turn our faces directly into the fury of the storm and press on. Our confidence will be rooted in the certainty that He is with us in the storms that rage around us. And the Lord shall help them, and deliver them: he shall deliver them from the wicked, and save them, because they trust in him. (Psalm 37:40)<br />Keep asking and keep trusting until you get your answer. And if you have a true, sincere heart for the Lord Jesus Christ, you above all people are hated by demonic powers above all others. Never forget that. Just because Satan is allowed by God to launch a painful attack upon us does not mean that God delights in it happening. On the contrary -- many things God permits … but He doesn’t take personal delight in the pain it causes those who are suffering.<br />Remember friends, God is in you, and YOU have been given power over the Devil! By submitting to God, and exercising your authority in the name of Jesus, you are more powerful than the enemy. “...He who is in you is greater than he who is in the world” (1 John 4:4).</span></div>Brew808http://www.blogger.com/profile/14181681673261981400noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35066019.post-55242657453427244252007-07-04T20:00:00.001-07:002007-07-09T18:26:11.879-07:00The Modern Man, The Modern Woman...<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhAq8MixMR_HPYN2yFqYxZotIxStbRT2rFmJumaez_QoRScRkeTaz9VuDod-nU9HytZq5sDxDnUoXaKbkGMSupKDIzH1I6aAOzqoRh21hspXIZa1imwaK9sL5VHoUSQwrspfIQ80g/s1600-h/wallpaper_10060.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5085373154778664722" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhAq8MixMR_HPYN2yFqYxZotIxStbRT2rFmJumaez_QoRScRkeTaz9VuDod-nU9HytZq5sDxDnUoXaKbkGMSupKDIzH1I6aAOzqoRh21hspXIZa1imwaK9sL5VHoUSQwrspfIQ80g/s200/wallpaper_10060.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhg5V03JSgPpzpqmEE3v6BsQcaogVXdM9dpMHN822iOoSiJHalDSz0URAgyCfU19K-zPmt5Deps9nK-vf92FcpnY3I1x_0SINlu8E09BQutLvApbwdR-zDTRrtzhtnzP2CwOe0rPg/s1600-h/MonicaBellucci2.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5085371617180372738" style="FLOAT: right; MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhg5V03JSgPpzpqmEE3v6BsQcaogVXdM9dpMHN822iOoSiJHalDSz0URAgyCfU19K-zPmt5Deps9nK-vf92FcpnY3I1x_0SINlu8E09BQutLvApbwdR-zDTRrtzhtnzP2CwOe0rPg/s200/MonicaBellucci2.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><br /></div><div><br /><br /><br /></div><div><br /><br /></div><div align="center"><span style="color:#ff9900;">Women often tell me that men confuse them and that they are unsure what a man is really looking for that they are <strong>"A holes"</strong> etc... They have tried to please them in the past and it hasn't worked so now, the man can concentrate on pleasing them or leave. It doesn't matter whether that view is actually true or not. What is true is that, the modern man is increasingly struggling to find his place in the world. Career women that work in their department and in most aspects of industry, women are excelling. Old school males are crumbling and with them their innate self respect as well as their understanding of how they should act and what they desire. I am so so sure that any woman reading this may say, well it's a problem for men and they should deal with it. In totality I agree but, you cannot expect miracles instantly. Generations of history dictating a man's role and function cannot be decided and altered in the space of 20 years without some fallout. Now, what does a man seek in a relationship? Man is seeking a love-interest. This may surprise many women but men like to love and they like being loved in return. The problem is that many women come across as impassioned and cold. It is not easy to find a loving woman and it is very noticeable how many men try and hang on when they think they have found their Miss Right. I am talking in general here because there are some women who give love to the Max....and the man turns away....Men aren't necessarily looking for a catwalk model and majority of men don't like women who weigh 80lbs. But men do want a woman who takes pride in their appearance (though not excessively). Men are proud of having a girlfriend who looks good and I don't believe any man who says otherwise. I am sure there are women saying, don't judge a book by its cover....you're right but I wouldn't want to wake up in the morning looking at a face or body thats not pleasant. Men are very visual. Men want someone who is supportive. Many women are quick to criticize men in their behavior, career and set about trying to alter them and mould them. This is a crucial mistake. Men can be manipulated yes, but they see their partnerships as support systems. The best relationships work both ways in terms of support. Where a woman is not able or willing to give that support and is too quick to criticize then she may lose her man.The fact is, a modern man is seeking a reliable, sexy, single girl with whom he can have a long term relationship with. Not someone with siblings, very few. He wants to have fun, share his life and ultimately settle down. There are a few long term bachelors but not that many. The problem guys have is that the world has changed. They don't necessarily want to have children and settle down straight away, but it will come. They do seek self-respect even if they are not the primary breadwinner and they seek respect from their partner. Women become increasingly strong in their new roles in society, it is worth remembering that it takes, and always will take, two to tango.<br /><br /></span></div><div align="center"><span style="color:#ff9900;">On the other hand, women love men who have certain level of refinement. A man who is interested in becoming more than just his job. Seeking more out of life than just eat, sleep and work. Women seek a man with a stable career for financial security. Interested in what you have to say, a good listener and I am sure you women will agree in is <strong>Good in bed!</strong> Women love to be complimented by their date and on their appearance. After all, there is always something nice a man can say that is complimentary about a woman at any age. Females in many species do not readily have sex until the males have courted them for a while. These are the reasons why most females are not eager for a 'roll-in-the-hay' every time a male comes along. Acceptance of a sexual partner is a serious decision for females. Much more serious than for a male! What women really want from men is <strong>confidence</strong>. Confidence... not arrogance, not dominance, not useless bravado, not macho heroics. <strong>Women just love truly confident men</strong>. A woman likes to believe, a man is willing to deal with a lot of things, what really counts is that he is able to deal with her. A healthy, mature woman resists impassioned commitment to a man who is afraid of her sexuality, her intelligence, or her emotions. I think a lot of women feel like , "Treat us like people, not a receptacle. We're not here just for you to get off and walk away." "Women aren't turned on the same way men are turned on. We're different. So for us it's not just like shaking hands."</span></div><div align="center"><span style="color:#ff9900;"></span> </div><div align="center"><span style="color:#ff9900;">Today’s man doesn’t need to have confidence in his puffed up skills, his marksmanship, and he doesn’t even need to provide for the entire family in most cases. So for some they’ve lost track of where their self-confidence is coming from. This makes women want to see that self-confidence even more – because it’s not as obvious or abundant as it once had to be.<br />In short, what women really want is a man who is willing, even though he has fears, to stand up and face the trials and tribulations of each new tough day, and who is strong enough to allow her to be strong without fear of his resentment of her strength. </span></div><div align="center"><span style="color:#ff9900;"><br /></span></div><div align="center"><span style="color:#ff9900;">Boy, I can easily fire a great debate and I may be accused of being completely wrong but that is the beauty of opinions.</span></div>Brew808http://www.blogger.com/profile/14181681673261981400noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35066019.post-61169271026212571892007-06-27T18:39:00.001-07:002007-06-27T19:31:20.778-07:00What Makes a Man Cheat.....<div align="left"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjkG7zax4uBYsnuI9F3Te_7HAGdk5rqFiYQw_dkfEji5Pg9sYWnS6Okr0kZO7LP-hGZWmyDAk_ONkEagk8COFVf5T6Xe2xH6ttUF4-SfGxsy_tzmmNZXz1kFHQ5WUq2VdhP9GL-kA/s1600-h/minizoom.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5080933588818710210" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjkG7zax4uBYsnuI9F3Te_7HAGdk5rqFiYQw_dkfEji5Pg9sYWnS6Okr0kZO7LP-hGZWmyDAk_ONkEagk8COFVf5T6Xe2xH6ttUF4-SfGxsy_tzmmNZXz1kFHQ5WUq2VdhP9GL-kA/s320/minizoom.jpg" border="0" /></a> <span style="color:#ff9900;"><strong>One of the most painful experiences one undergoes in life is discovering your boyfriend or husband is a cheating guy. It becomes even more painful if you strongly care about, or deeply love, him.</strong></span><br /></div><div align="left"><span style="color:#ff9900;"><strong>What is "Cheating"? Cheating to some people may be simple glances at a good looking woman as she walks down the street or thinking about that sexy looking number that is displayed on the calendar or thinking ‘if only I am single’. Statistics show that, 22% of married men have strayed at least once during their married lives, 70% of married women did not know of their spouses' extramarital activity, while another 3% of married women reported having sex with someone other than their spouse. So why do men cheat? We first need to understand as to what is the normal behavior for a man. Can we get upset when a man enjoys a little flirtatious behavior or remarks on the good looks of a gorgeous woman if the act or comment hardly bears any substance? An innocent action that in no way impacts the way a man feels about his partner is harmless, it is how much he is and can be trusted to draw the line that matters. Some guys are just born to cheat and it is in their very nature to sample what is there to offer. </strong></span></div><div align="left"><br /></div><div align="left"><span style="color:#ff9900;"><strong>One of the most important factors that determines the difference between a good and bad man regarding fidelity is to take a look at his parents. Did he come from a loving family? Good breeding for me is the most important. It is a well known fact that children learn by example, even if it is subconscious. It is so important for women to understand that if a guy cheats on a woman, there is a very good possibility he will cheat on you. Men always have good reasons for cheating, so ladies, do yourself a favor and pass up the bad cheating guys for the good faithful guys. He may not always be as exciting and dangerous, but love and trust always outweighs danger and excitement in the long run. There is an old saying “men are only as faithful as their options” can sometimes ring true. </strong></span></div><div align="left"><br /></div><div align="left"><span style="color:#ff9900;"><strong>Men don’t get offered sex as often as women so when the opportunity does arise, it can be very difficult for them to turn it down. Another possibility why men cheat is You argue a lot. Men will sometimes cheat to get away from an overly critical or argumentative partner. Who wants to be around someone who is constantly on them about something. He’s fallen out of love. Sometimes men become so comfortable in a relationship, they don’t know how to get out. They may be staying in the relationship because of children or financial reasons. However, they feel like they are missing out on love and may seek it out elsewhere. In their mind, this is as close to win-win as they can get. Your sex life sucks. If a man has a disinterested partner or isn’t getting enough sex to fulfill him, there is a good chance he will have an affair. Just because you have a husband or boyfriend, does not mean you can stop trying. It takes a little bit of effort to keep your sex life from getting boring and non-existent. Some men cheat because they want to try new sexual things that their current partner will not try.</strong></span></div><div align="left"><br /></div><div align="left"><span style="color:#ff9900;"><strong>Reasons why men cheat can be more complex than the above mention or even be a combination of a few different reasons. Nevertheless, no reason is good enough reason to lie and be dishonest. After all, Karma can be a DRAG!. </strong></span></div>Brew808http://www.blogger.com/profile/14181681673261981400noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35066019.post-78494092357018490172007-03-30T14:15:00.000-07:002007-04-14T00:54:04.633-07:00Does He Really Love You?<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg1Vh8FHsi3Fc8qbQ2SXd1hONnMcmYloMsXL7CcQAJCQue8IHbPWjifjI0wg4sc5gm3CDiI7BkRUiXJbbMADb7kmxOThotWwsBM8FvzO6pOCT8lantlxl21fO2hWotJ6qrg8qz0lw/s1600-h/rodin-kissers.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5053188653416175730" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg1Vh8FHsi3Fc8qbQ2SXd1hONnMcmYloMsXL7CcQAJCQue8IHbPWjifjI0wg4sc5gm3CDiI7BkRUiXJbbMADb7kmxOThotWwsBM8FvzO6pOCT8lantlxl21fO2hWotJ6qrg8qz0lw/s400/rodin-kissers.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div align="justify"><span style="color:#ffcc33;">Sometimes you wonder what do the words "I LOVE YOU" mean? If you define each word using a dictionary you can understand the phrase within the English language. The first word, "I" is a pronoun, used for the subject of one's self. Using I in this context is the person speaking, the one announcing their love. So what is Love? According to the dictionary, "Love" is the tender passionate care towards one person. In society, love however, is thought to be a special feeling felt between people, or by one person for someone else. The final word in this phrase is "you". This word is yet another pronoun describing the single second person. In the context of this phrase, "you" is the person you would like to tell you have feelings for them. The "I" and the "you" are both pronouns and describing the subject, therefore when the three words are put together, "I love you" basically means, "I have a passionate and tender care towards you". In today's society, when one says, "I love you", then it normally brings joy to the happy couple, as one announces their feelings toward the other. Its as if these words bring a special bond between couples. The words bring a special happiness within the couple that can't be easily explained, so it is often thought to be considered natural. you know when someone is in love with you, when they act strangely around you. Being nervous around your lover occurs quite often. When you are with someone you love, your physical self (your body) overpowers the mental self (your mind). When this happens your physical self starts to play with your mind and you lose control of your normal self, the normal you. People often start acting silly towards their lover as their nerves start playing up. When this happens many times you know that they love you.<br />So many times you don't have to tell your partner that you love them, because they already know that you do. But how do you know it is Love?<br />Many people just know that someone loves them. There are a few reasons for this; they try to please you and make you happy, and they act strangely around you. You just know when someone is in love with you. Even though they try to make your life happy, they must be involved in some way. Being nervous around your lover occurs quite often. When you are with someone you love, your physical self (your body) overpowers the mental self (your mind). When this happens your physical self starts to play with your mind and you lose control of your normal self, the normal you. People often start acting silly towards their lover as their nerves start playing up. When this happens many times you know that they love you.<br /></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="color:#ffcc33;"></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="color:#ffcc33;">How do you know He Loves You?</span></div><div align="justify"><span style="color:#ffcc33;">I can tell you if you expect a man to show you he loves you every day you are asking way too much, a man can love you with his whole being and not show it. Some men aren't really good at expressing the love that they have for you, and some men just aren't as romantic as other men. Start paying attention to this guy and you may see things that you didn't notice before because you were too busy wondering if he loved you. Sometimes you may have to step back and look a little harder at the situation to find the result. </span></div><div align="justify"><span style="color:#ffcc33;"></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="color:#ffcc33;">For the most part if a guy didn't love you somewhat he wouldn't be with you. Also, you might just have to sit him down and flat out ask him and if his answer isn't what you were looking for you may have to decide if this is the relationship for you. If he tells you he loves you, how do you know he really does? You should be able to see true meaning when he says it. He may give you a kiss and tell you how much he loves you. Also, if you ask him why he loves you, and he answers, "I don't know, I just do," that is one of the worst ways for you to believe him. To show he loves you he should kiss you before or after he does... or tell you " I love you so much." Or maybe he gives you a gift for no reason or just to say he loves you. That is true love. Love is like a flower because it comes in many diffrent types. If he doesn't say it, it doesn't mean he's shy, any man is capable of saying I love you. If he doesn't say I love you, then he doesn't mean it! Changing of topic when you discuss about your future with him is not a gowe judge others by our own standards. </span></div><div align="justify"><span style="color:#ffcc33;"><br /></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="color:#ffcc33;">If I'm a person who feels loved when somebody hugs me and kisses me, I'm most likely going to try to show love to another person by hugging and kissing them. But what if they experience the feeling of being loved when somebody brings them an unexpected gift, and hugs or kisses are relatively meaningless to them?</span></div><div align="justify"><span style="color:#ffcc33;"><br /></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="color:#ffcc33;">These are some sure signs that tell a guy really likes you. But do not confront him as soon as you find these signs in him. Give him some time to realize that he loves you. On the other hand, you can show him in your own ways that you like him too. You will know the right time to confide, you just do!</span></div><div align="justify"><span style="color:#ffcc33;"><br /><br /><br /></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="color:#ffcc33;"></span></div><div align="justify"><br /><br /><br /></div><div></div>Brew808http://www.blogger.com/profile/14181681673261981400noreply@blogger.com10tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35066019.post-29580773762756191162007-03-23T04:39:00.000-07:002007-11-30T15:00:49.477-08:00Caring For My Mother...<div align="justify"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjzyEgifRJa5v7qapT5Iw_BrtFle_sVYn7nNDRrFzLKL8w4pg8y926RdekTH91fy-LHDEKRbp_Om3caYVIJJTP5c61Dqs27j-E8hd3O__WxQFRi62F6vZaMWRitod6cFSCKBgLMTg/s1600-h/flying.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5045446084846477170" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjzyEgifRJa5v7qapT5Iw_BrtFle_sVYn7nNDRrFzLKL8w4pg8y926RdekTH91fy-LHDEKRbp_Om3caYVIJJTP5c61Dqs27j-E8hd3O__WxQFRi62F6vZaMWRitod6cFSCKBgLMTg/s400/flying.jpg" border="0" /></a> <span style="color:#66ff99;">A few weeks ago, I travelled to the Philippines with my youngest daughter (10) to visit my mother who is ill. She was diagnosed with "C". It was so nerve racking since I reside in the U.S.A. and none of my brother and sisters are here with me. Everything was just a mist. I'm always thinking how she is, relying on <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">text</span> messages and some phone calls, are they telling me the truth so that as to not hurt me or make me panic.<br /><br />I finally decided to go back home for 3 weeks and see for myself and be with her. My daughter came with me (10) since my mother asked for her. We arrived in the Philippines close to midnight so this was not a good time to go to the hospital <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">since</span> she would be asleep. We would go the next day. We got to the house of my sister and there was a delicious meal awaiting us. It was a pasta dish from a restaurant called <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">Italiani's</span>, and it was awesome.After the meal, we slept 'cause we were so exhausted from the 14 hour flight.<br /></span><br /><span style="color:#ff9900;"><span style="color:#66ff99;">The next morning the maids served us breakfast and asked what we wanted. Then we told them what we wnated, b<span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3">reakfast was</span> served and it was so good to feel spoiled again. Having them set the table, making sure your drinking glass is always full either with water, juice, milk, etc. and your clothes washed, ironed, hanged and folded. Aa driver to take you around, or just relax in the Lanai staring at the colorful garden and feel the tropical wind glide through your entire body. We ate Mangoes, (considered the sweetest in the world) and my daughter and I had a blast savoring every bite. After breakfast we showered and proceeded to my other sisters house and looked on her new renovation. After that, we proceeded to the hospital. I was nervous, thinking of what to say, how would I react when I see her, so the traffic was a lot of help preparing myself. Things <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_4">have</span> changed since I was home 4 years ago. Even the hospital my mom was looked like a 5 star hotel.<br />We finally arrived at the hospital and my heart started to beat faster. My mom was on the 15<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_5">th</span> Floor where the suites are located. Got to the 15<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_6">th</span> floor and started walking towards her room. My vision was like those movies where all you see is misty vision on the corners of your eyes and the center of your sight is so sharp. Then we get to the door and my <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_7">sister</span> opens it. My mom bed is the first thing I see since I couldn't see her 'cause of the wall. I moved closer and there she was, lost weight, looked tired, and my heart just crumbled, went to her directly bent over and hugged her tight and cried and told her I Love her so much. I just continued to hug her, missing a mothers smell and warm hug, I felt like an infant in her arms. Then I let go and my daughter came to hug her too. She knitted a green scarf for her since green is my mothers favorite color. Then we sat and <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_8">talked</span>, asked how everything was. I kept looking at my mom and thinking how a radiant woman, vein woman of before suddenly being struck by the worst sickness, transform her into what I saw. She's still gorgeous tho even with <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_9">her</span> weight loss.<br /><br />5 days after, we left the hospital, nurses saying their <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_10">goodbyes</span> with glassy eyes and all and my mother thanking each one who attended to her. She being kinda weak due to the medications and all with the heat of 90 deg. just penetrated our skins upon embarking to our cold vehicles just dehydrating us. We got to my parents home and all she wanted to do was rest in her room, which we made her do.<br /><br />The next day, I woke up at about 5:00am, got out of my room and saw the maids cleaning the inside of the house, the driver washing the cars for another day and my mothers cook asked if I <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_11">wanted</span> anything for breakfast and I said just coffee. A few minutes sipping my coffee, my father steps out of the room, gave him a big hug and talked with him. In his eyes he is hurting since my mother is his life. But he kept himself poised at all times as if nothing serious is happening. After we <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_12">talked</span> about what's been <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_13">happening</span> in my life, their lives, he stands and takes a shower to gets ready to go to his clinic. Then, I decided to walk into my parents room to check on my mom and there I saw her weak, face all sagging as if she was so dehydrated. Her mid wife started to measure her stomach which is done 1st thing in the morning when she wakes up and starts to prepare her <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_14">breakfast</span>. Chemotherapy makes food taste like metal, that's why they don't feel like eating. I sat down beside her and started to pray with her and the mid wife on healing verses of the Lord. After the prayer I hugged her and kissed her and told mom, lets go outside in the living room, there's a strong breeze and she'd feel much better. With my continues persistence she agreed, so I helped her up and aided her out of her room to a chair by the entrance of the house (which I prepared) long before I asked her and there she sat. The strong breeze gushing through our hair felt really good and refreshing. When my dad walked out after preparing himself, was so surprised to see my mom out of her bed, looking so fresh. <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_15">T'was</span> a sight I cannot explain. All I can say, it was "Radiance of Happiness".<br /><br /><br />For 2 weeks I never left my mothers side, helping my sisters entertain friends who'd visit her, whom themselves were survivors of the disease giving words of wisdom and motivation of their own experiences and you know what? They had the same symptoms. This continued everyday, an SOP you may call it. Prayed in the morning and in the afternoon before friends and family arrived.<br /><br /><br />A week before I was due to go back to the States, one of my sisters told me to go out, go to a flea market and buy bargain clothes for my family. A brother gave me a dinner at his home with some cousins, and the next day my sister gave me a dinner with all my cousins she could get a hold on. I was a blast. It was nice to see my side of the family after 4 years. <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_16">That e</span><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_17">vening</span> I had another party for me given this time by my <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_18">group mates</span> or you may say childhood friends. I got to the party almost midnight and when I saw them, it was like going back through time. Everyone had their own families, conversations were more rational not like the good ole days we're we'd talk about girls, <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_19">gimmicks</span> and all. it as so memorable and tears came running out of my eyes.<br /><br /><br />The day came. when I was about to leave for the States with my daughter. I had to be in the airport at 3am for my connecting flights to Japan then to the States. I couldn't sleep anymore that evening, my sisters helping me pack my suitcase, the giveaways and all. While they were sleeping on the couches, some in the bedroom, i was just sitting in the Lanai, thinking of my younger years. I had a wonderful life and up to present. They gave me the eduction, my mom had the <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_20">patience</span>, and "she is the rock of the family" besides the true rock "GOD". She made sure everybody was together during weekends, we'd go to a lot of plays together, eat out since we're all heavy eaters, we'd go to plush restaurants with my parents and to the narrowest hole in the wall <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_21">restaurants</span> but serves awesome dishes. I kept walking in the garden thinking , what a hard work it is for a mother to take care of her family. The sacrifices a mother does for her children and seeing her kinda helpless tears my heart apart.<br /><br /><br />The time came to say goodbyes and I went to <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_22">her</span> bed and hugged her so much and kissed her and told her I LOVE YOU MOM and thank you so much. I didn't let her go. I sniffed at her smell, and continued to kiss her and utter words of Love. Then I hugged my father and told him I love him so much and just kept hugging him like a kid scared to let go. My daughter hugged them both as well mother as usual giving words of morals and my father saying he will miss her. We walked to the van, suitcases were already loaded by the driver and off we went. My head turning not leaving the house's site and my father by the doorway.<br /><br />I arrived at the airport a few minutes after 3am and it was already packed. We <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_23">alit</span> from the van and the porters loaded our suitcases and then hugs came from everywhere, my sisters and my niece and my brother in law. We just told each other we love each other, not letting go, told them to take care of mom, hug Mom everyday for em and Pop as well. The we <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_24">walked</span> towards the entrance of the airport and glanced at my <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_25">family</span> behind me a waved goodbye and a word of I Love You!!! and never looked back again.<br /><br />It's really hard in ones person life once a tragic illness hits the family. It's like the world stops. Your in total denial that such is happening, Asking yourself why is this happening and other sorts of questions. But you know, when we were cruising, a voice whispered in my ear and said, "I Shall Heal Her". Right there I felt a presence, a comforting presence, and I believe she will be healed. She will be a testimony to others who have seen her that God has healed her. I felt very relaxed the whole trip after that.<br /><br />So to end this, I would like to tell my mom and my dad,</span><br /><br /></div></span><span style="color:#ff9900;"></span><div align="center"><span style="font-size:130%;color:#ffffff;"><strong>" Thank You, for Being the Best Parents a Kid Could Ever Have! "</strong></span></div>Brew808http://www.blogger.com/profile/14181681673261981400noreply@blogger.com10tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35066019.post-90357590755171716002007-03-20T14:40:00.000-07:002008-01-14T17:49:00.509-08:00Reminiscing<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjYf58NOZW4MoVo3MHMH3J8YUv8eM6pgqPAniS8OtzuSr0ms9IZUVQzxqc3GBYv6WESAOcSUniNygmoyHjI3eMRSCEd1MZ5AQDDMv4KSRaF6QEV0p6vVR4grVOMLsdrCTFyIrMIQg/s1600-h/dcorvinotimemachine001.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5044125128999886626" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjYf58NOZW4MoVo3MHMH3J8YUv8eM6pgqPAniS8OtzuSr0ms9IZUVQzxqc3GBYv6WESAOcSUniNygmoyHjI3eMRSCEd1MZ5AQDDMv4KSRaF6QEV0p6vVR4grVOMLsdrCTFyIrMIQg/s320/dcorvinotimemachine001.jpg" border="0" /></a> Well, if I had to go back in time and change things, first of all I wouldn't change the good life I was given by my parents and the good life at present. Nothing at all can replace it.<br /><br />What I would've changed was to be more skilled in other fields,(carpentry, making things out of nothing) but being skilled with cars is enough to make it work here in the States, but carpentry pays much much more but computer programming pays the best. If only I knew I was going to end up here in the U.S.A., I would've taken up Computer Programming instead of Business Management, knowing now, that, it is the future.<br /><br />I should've have gone out with younger girls than I was but dating older women made it more adventurous for me and more exciting, and they were calmer but so intense in other aspects and no regrets there. I should've stuck out with a Chinese girlfriend of mine who was older, wealthy and her father was a high Officer of China Bank. Who knows, I would've have been a member of the Board...not the Blackboard ok? I should've not married at a young age not right after college, (21) and lived a full Bachelors life. I don't regret the woman I married who bore me beautiful children. But I will NEVER forget my first love. I Loved her so much but age kept us apart.<br />I would've have traveled more often and partied to death. I kinda always was obedient to my parents being raised the Spanish way. Like the Special forces of Hitler SS TONEKAUF. That aspect I don't regret. It disciplined me. I should've also pursued the export business I did in my mid 20's on Mallard Ducks handicrafts made of seaweed, which I lost interest on (or I ran out of funds).<br /><br />This is all I can think of......Brew808http://www.blogger.com/profile/14181681673261981400noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35066019.post-1170909266292736042007-02-07T19:55:00.000-08:002007-02-07T20:42:32.400-08:00Older Women, Younger Men......<a href="http://photos1.blogger.com/x/blogger/7709/3894/1600/984552/48967.jpg"><img style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="http://photos1.blogger.com/x/blogger/7709/3894/320/60133/48967.jpg" border="0" /></a> Age is a state of mind. Women in their 40's are far from old, some in good shape and some starting families for the first time or opening a new chapter of their lives. I am an example who in my teens dated and went on relationships, some escapades with older women (un-married, nor divorced). I just felt I could communicate better with them compared to women younger than me. But my family disapproved of my relationships with older women. I’ve always liked pretty women regardless of their age, not in the teens nor mid 20’s.<br />On the other hand, the question arises, “Why do Older Women Prefer Younger Men? Who are these women? These are the women who were discouraged by what they considered unacceptable choices for a lifetime mate and refused to settle for second best, Instead they chose to remain single and invest in their own development and careers.<br />Women prefer younger men for the flexibility and sense of adventure of their more spontaneous, younger companions, For their part, younger men often find older women more interesting, experimental, fun to talk to, financially settled, and more adept sexually. Then there are those who remained in unsatisfying marriages for the sake of convenience; furthering careers or raising children, and are now divorced. Most of these women have decided that age will not prevent them from enjoying satisfying lives. And thanks to the numerous varieties of <strong>beauty products</strong> and <strong>healthcare treatments</strong> available today, some of these women are presenting stiff competition to some younger women in the market for romantic partners. Some men on the dating scene admit it is becoming increasingly difficult to determine the true age of these foxy ladies. Sometimes it’s unbelievable when they tell you their age. There are consequences and some maybe: He will leave her for a younger woman or in some cases, the man wanted children," she says no, "and the relationship falls apart because of that. You do not want to play 'mommy' or caretaker to your lover do you! Issues will eventually destroy any relationship no matter what the age difference. If the younger man can handle his own life his job education emotional needs is healthy and searching then he makes a great partner no matter what the age difference and how long the relationship lasts. With a large age difference, most younger men will move on to someone in their own age group, or younger, as the years go by like what i did.<br />Also part of the reason older women are attracted to younger men is because they are often free of too much bitterness towards past relationships, they tend to (not always) be more sexually enthusiastic and interested, and they tend to be, at least here in the U.S. more comfortable with stronger women . Older women are not running after marriage or children, and if that’s something they want, and we can have a meaningful relationship Well. that causes conflict, and I don’t want to stand in anyone’s way when it comes to fulfilling their life goals. Even if the relationship is based on mutual sexual interest, well, I don’t know about everyone else, but I sure like a little <strong><em>lovin’</em> </strong>while I’m screwing. The quality of human relationships should always boil down to the love. I don’t care if it lasts five minutes or a lifetime, there’s simply too much abuse and hatred in the world to add more to it.<br />If after experimentation a man is convinced he is getting exactly what he wants from a relationship, would he be more likely to commit to that relationship or would he seek others?<br />When you come right down to it, <strong><em>COMPATIBILITY </em></strong>is what makes relationships work regardless of age differences.Brew808http://www.blogger.com/profile/14181681673261981400noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35066019.post-1170361342564770972007-02-01T12:21:00.000-08:002007-02-02T12:09:23.673-08:00Mothers Are A Place Where...<a href="http://photos1.blogger.com/x/blogger/7709/3894/1600/813649/0017-0309-0903-1816_TN.jpg"><img style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="http://photos1.blogger.com/x/blogger/7709/3894/400/741728/0017-0309-0903-1816_TN.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><a href="http://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/7709/3894/1600/0017-0309-0903-1816_TN.jpg"></a><br /><a href="http://photos1.blogger.com/x/blogger/7709/3894/1600/952025/god_test_sad%20face.jpg"></a><br /><a href="http://photos1.blogger.com/x/blogger/7709/3894/1600/111158/god_test_sad%20face.jpg"></a><br /><br /><div align="left">Mothers are the place where love </div><div align="left">Emerges from the earth,</div><div align="left">And happiness rings out like bells </div><div align="left">In honor of our birth.<br />Mothers are the sun that lights </div><div align="left">For life our inner sky,</div><div align="left">So we may know that we are loved</div><div align="left">And need not question why.<br />Mothers are the moon that shines </div><div align="left">Upon our black despair,</div><div align="left">So even when we weep, we know</div><div align="left">That someone's always there.<br />Whatever fear, or stress, or pain</div><div align="left">Might them to anger move,</div><div align="left">We know that underneath the storm</div><div align="left">We have, always, their love.</div>Brew808http://www.blogger.com/profile/14181681673261981400noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35066019.post-1169975119069240172007-01-28T00:23:00.000-08:002007-02-06T12:42:23.356-08:00Missing your Mom...<div align="justify"><span style="color:#ffcc00;"><a href="http://www.righttotheheart.com/spiritual_survey/ssimages/god_test_sad%20face.jpg"></a></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="color:#ffcc00;"></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="color:#ffcc00;"></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="color:#ffcc00;"></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="color:#ffcc00;"></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="color:#ffcc00;"></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="color:#ffcc00;">Hello everyone. It's been a while that I haven't posted. A lot of things are going on with my life. </span></div><div align="justify"><span style="color:#ffcc00;">A family member of mine my Mom is seriously ill and I can't stop thinking about it. I also think that I'm not going to be 100% at work or in day-to-day life while my Mom gets through this illness. I know I can't deal with hiding or ignoring my Mom's diagnosis. But, I am being strong for myself, my dad and my brother and sisters and for her. I am very far away from my Mom. I am here in the States, and she's in Asia.<br />I am afraid and angry at the same time and how my life has changed. It's a serious illness, and it can be scary if you don't know for sure if she will get well or not, but it's not over. Miracles happen and I am optimistic with prayer she will be healed. God is in control. He has plans for each one of us. So having Faith in Him makes me stronger. I know and have read that, although some people do die from "C", many do not. More people are living with "C" today than ever before. In many cases, "C" treatment can cause a remission meaning, there are no more signds of the "C".<br />Sometimes, my friends wonder why I act strange. I wish they understood that, sometimes, I don't want to do what they're doing, I really want to be with my Mom. It has affected the whole family.<br />I really, really, really, really love my mother and my father as well. They have been married for 54 years and I was told that, my father cried and still in tears. I don't think I have ever heard my father so scared in my life when I spoke with him. He is a doctor. They are like lovebirds until now, like still going steady.<br />She 's the one who keeps the family together. A few days ago my eldest daughter texted me and said, she was crying because she wouldn't know what to do if she would pass away. My mother is a mentor, poised, dignified, sociable and being a doctors wife, she was exposed to dignitaries and elite individuals and, most of all she is sweet, beautiful and kind. It touched my heart, felt like a spear that went through it when my daughter texted me that message. It shows that, my Mom has touched my daughters heart in a way. And I felt so pleased about it. I texted back and said, keep the Faith and she will be alright and she replied, I Love You Dad, and take care.<br />So right now, I am in a state of uncertainty of what's going to happen, but I know, God is listening to our prayers. </span><span style="color:#ffcc00;">So i say to all of you, "Love your Mother and Father for they have sacrificed a lot in raising you the best they can and enjoy them while they are still living" </span></div>Brew808http://www.blogger.com/profile/14181681673261981400noreply@blogger.com1